Story:
I was really struggling. I suspected my husband had Aspergers (and my therapist agreed with my assessment). I spoke to a therapist about my marital struggles and she offered to help me get a divorce and support me through the process. Then I found Go4harmony. I found the marriage teleconference really brilliant and powerful! I signed up for coaching with Chaya and it changed my life and the way I viewed my husband. I learned to have compassion instead of judge him. I learned to believe in myself and to love and nurture myself. I learned to encourage my husband to be there for me in the ways that he can and accept my Nisyonos. I’m seeing miracles, slowly my husband is improving in ways that didn’t seem possible. Go4harmony
showed me the potential in my marriage! I just feel so privileged to have been led to Go4harmony.
Comments:
Secular influences make us feel that if a marriage is not easy, it must be left. Not everyone is Zoche to an easy and close relationship. Not every relationship has the same capacity for connection. Hashem in his infinite wisdom knows what each of us needs on our journey through life. One of Go4harmony’s goals is to help women be happy even in more difficult marriages, to build a life for themselves outside their relationship, to become more emotionally healthy and to establish boundaries in loving and soft ways to protect themselves and be able to thrive in their family life. Many women have diagnoses for their husbands and their husbands truly have real limitations and weaknesses. When they understand that he is not trying to hurt them or neglect them and that he is suffering, it’s easier for them to feel compassion and positively invest in the
relationship. Knowing that Hashem gives you what you need to be happy is powerful. There are many unsung heroes who are truly Nashim Tzidkanios, who are the backbone of their families, in difficult situations. We don’t necessarily choose our Nisyonos whether it is the Nisayon of having to get divorced or staying in a difficult marriage, however we do choose our attitude. Happiness is not the absence of challenges. Challenges are the impetus for growth, which creates happiness.